About “Tidbits Under the Table”

I started this blog because I kept getting little spurts of spiritual thoughts that were too good to keep to myself and too good to just let slide into oblivion–but they don’t have a common theme.  I never know what’s coming next.  They’re all over the place.  Fragments,  tidbits, flashes, sparks.

The “under the table” part of the title came from a couple of stories, one of which is found in Matthew 15:27 (“even the little dogs eat the crumbs that fall from the Master’s table”).  The other goes back to my growing-up years.  For several years, my mom and I went to special evening Masses which were followed by refreshments and fellowship.  People would stand around tables eating cookies, drinking punch and talking.  Only one other child regularly attended, and since she was younger and shorter than I, I’d bend down a bit to get to her level when I talked with her.  She thought that was funny and bent down too…so I bent down more.  Next we knew, we were both nestled under a table!  We liked it under there, in our own private spot, and in months to come it became a sort of “trademark”.  We were the two under the table.

Although I don’t spend much time  under tables literally anymore, I try to stay close to God’s Table, close to His Word and to the Sacraments.  Yes, I know, as His daughter, I have a place at His table, but children like to crawl under tables too!  And a lot of the tidbits He feeds me are whimsical–as if I were under His table.

Finally, Revelation 6:9 references the souls of the martyrs under the altar in Heaven.  The word “martyr” literally translates “witness”, and whether it causes my literal death or not, I mean to bear witness to the Lord Who is so good.

About me

Stay-at-home wife to a high school math teacher (Catholic school) & Godmother to two children.

Why I wear a veil

  • I’ve always wanted to wear a veil & I’ve finally found one that doesn’t make me look like a nun or an Amish (or one of the other plain people).
  • It makes me feel more feminine/protected/cherished. I feel more free–I don’t have to be so concerned with protecting myself.
  • It helps me tap into “the genius of woman”, to use Pope St. John Paul the Great’s phrase. Woman is the one who receives, and in order to do so, she has to be the one who submits, who accepts. The veil is a sign of that receptivity.
  • I feel safe submitting to my prince, to God and to the Church. The veil is a sign of that submission. It’s a compliment to my prince.
  • I realized that the Church never discouraged veiling–She just chose not to press the point. That didn’t seem like a very good reason to abandon veils to me, especially since Scripture makes such a big deal about women being covered (I Corinthians 11:1-16).
  • I don’t believe veils are just a cultural thing, especially after talking with my prince about his perspective on them. There seems to be something innate about a woman having her head covered that makes it easier for her to be feminine & for men to treat her like a lady–same sort of thing with skirts.
  • My prince said he finds a woman who wears a veil as an expression of who she is (or who she wants to be) very attractive, but in a deeper way. Veils & lust just don’t mix, anymore than veils & bikinis do–cognitive dissonance.
  • I’m the bride of Christ & brides are veiled.
  • You veil that which is precious.
  • Most of the women in the Communion of saints, our spiritual role models, are veiled (think historically)!

because she was created by being drawn from man’s side,
is constantly trying to return to him.
She desires the original unity
of one flesh and one bone.
The desire for unity between man and woman
is a mirror of the relationship
between Christ and the soul.
As woman longs for union with man in human relationships,
she is also drawn to unity with God.
He calls her to become one with Him:
to come under His side
and become flesh of His flesh and bone of His bone.
This occurs during reception of Eucharist.
The covering of the head with a veil
symbolizes the reality
of woman sheltered in the side of her Source
and becoming one with Him.
She becomes covered and hidden
in her Divine Spouse.
~Elizabeth Black and Emily Sparks explaining the theology of St. John Chrysostom

Patron Saints:

  • St. Clare of Assisi
  • St. Maria Goretti (I chose “Maria” as a Confirmation name after Maria from “the Sound of Music”–that’s how clueless I was!–but later realized that St. Maria Goretti was a better fit)
  • Sts. Martha & Zita (homemakers)
  • (and a veritable litany of C/Katherines)

A few of my favorite things:
Eucharistic Adoration,
daily Mass (when I can get there),
talking & cuddling with my prince,
talking about God (but not debates!),
long flowing skirts,
kitties (we have two),
decorating (walls, cards, stationery, jewelry, food, anything that holds still long enough!),
netting (a type of lace-making),
graphic design,
music, playing the flute, singing, silence, dancing (informal or simple contra),
looking things up,
strings of little white lights,
bonfires, candles,
our lack of TV (!),
planning fun little surprises

Books I keep recommending (this is the short list!)

  • Sacred Scripture
  • The Catechism of the Catholic Church (once this came out & I read it, I could finally say, “Yes! This is what I believe!”)
  • This Tremendous Lover, by Fr. Eugen Boylan (devotional theology)
  • I Believe in Love, by Pere Jean du Coeur de Jesus D’Elbee (based on the spirituality of the Little Flower)
  • The Story of A Soul, by St. Therese of Lisieux (her Autobiography)
  • The Story of a Family: The Home of St. Therese of Lisieux, by Fr. Stephabe-Joseph Piat, OFM
  • A Companion to the Summa, by Walter Farrell (makes Aquinas’ thought accessible–makes life make sense!)
  • Introduction to the Devout Life, by St. Frances de Sales
  • He and I, by Gabrielle Bossis (Gabrielle’s tender conversations with Jesus)
  • The Practise of the Presence of God, by Brother Lawrence
  • Your Hour, by Rev. M. Raymond, OCSO (uplifting stories about suffering–amazing!)
  • The Theology of the Body, by Pope John Paul II (but I needed Christopher West to explain it!)
  • The Reed of God, by Caryll Houselander (faithful, poetic reflections on Mary’s role)
  • A Right to be Merry, by Mother Mary St. Paul, PCC (the joyful life of Poor Clare nuns)
  • Selected Poetry of Jessica Powers (aka Sr. Miriam of the Holy Spirit, OCD), ed. by Regina Siegfried and Bishop Robert Morneau (I’m afraid I can’t recommend Bishop Morneau’s writings, though)
  • Fire of Mercy, Heart of the Word, by Erasmo Leiva-Merikakis (devotional commentary on the Gospel of Matthew, based on the Greek text)
  • The Catena Aurea, by St. Thomas Aquinas (commentary on the Gospels by the Fathers of the Church)
  • Spring Comes to the Hill Country, by Sr. Mary Jean Dorcy with Dan Paulos (stunning scissored paper cuttings of the Blessed Virgin)
  • In the Midst of Chaos, Peace, by Sr. Mary Jean Dorcy, Dan Paulos & Sr. Wendy Beckett (more scissored paper cuttings)
  • Saints Are Not Sad, by Frank Sheed
  • The Virtues on Parade, by Fr. John F. Murphy
  • Pardon and Peace, by Alfred Wilson, C.P. (NOT the newer book by the same title!)–best book I’ve seen on Confession, although it is somewhat dated
  • Umbert the Unborn: A Womb With a View, by Gary Cangemi (pro-life cartoons)
  • The Creed in Slow Motion, by Fr. Ronald Knox (all of his “slow motion” books are wonderful!)
  • Christianity and Infallibility—Both or Neither, by Fr. Daniel Lyons
  • Who is the Devil?, by Nicholas Corte
  • Fr. Francis J. Finn’s books: Tom Playfair, Harry Dee, Claude Lightfoot, Ethelred Preston, That Football Game, Percy Wynn (gripping stories with visible faith woven through everything)
  • St. Rose of Lima, by Mary Fabyan Windeatt’s (and all of her stories of the saints–easy to read, engaging and catechetical)
  • The Little Book Of Humility & Patience, by Archbishop Ullathorne
  • The Sanctifier, by Most Rev. Luis M. Martinez, translated by Sr. M. Aquinas, O.S.U. (devotional book on the Holy Spirit)
  • Dressing With Dignity, by Colleen Hammond (why & how-to)
  • The King of the Golden City, by Mother Mary Loyola (a sweet allegory of the Christian life)
  • Clean of Heart, by Rosemarie Scott (pure, practical, Catholic book on breaking free from sexual sin–applicable to other sins too)
  • Anything by Cardinal Ratzinger/Pope Benedict XVI

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